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Honestly, I’ve been feeling heartsick this past week.
My kids want, want, want. Their Christmas lists are pages long. They circle, star and x-mark the catalogs that arrive in the mail. They want, want, want.
And I feel heartsick.
This is not what Jeff and I want for our children, for our family. We have gone off the rails.
And, I don’t blame the kids – they’re just kids being kids.
Part of the problem is that I’ve had sick kids, one with the long-term sickness of mono. She’s had a lot of television time that she doesn’t normally have. And, those commercials. . . well, they work let me tell ya.
Case in point, Jeff asked me about a good vacuum to buy. I didn’t know but my kids knew. Or at least they knew all the various well-advertised brands and their features.
My kids are walking promo spots for brands I never even heard of!
Commercials on TV have contributed to the hijacking of my kids’ minds.
(That and a precedent set by certain relatives who never have respected our request of fewer gifts but that’s another blog post for another day.)
But, I can do something positive right now to make things different. I can stop the commercial brainwashing. I can shift our focus.
I asked you on Facebook for your ideas and they were so helpful, I wanted to share them all together in a blog post. Then I’ll tell you what we’re doing and plan to do.
1. Give to Charity.
–> Cynthia Wilder’s family saves money for the Heifer Project and sends flocks of chickens to “hungry people.” Emily Jones family chooses a gift to charity from Church World Service.
2. Give to Other Kids
–> Candice Churchwell shared that her kids’ school gives school supplies and shoes to children on a New Mexico reservation. She wrote, “It gave my kids something to compare it to and be thankful for what they do have and they realized it was well beyond “need” and in the “want” category. Giving to kids is something kids can relate to.“
–> Holly Ringle told me about Cwist, an education, community service and outdoor challenge site for kids. Doing the challenges, earns gifts for kids in need! (Love this!)
–> “Not sure about everyone else but my kids always get more than enough birthday presents, so much that we put many away “for a rainy day”. This year they will be making their first donations to our local Toys for Tots programs with at least some of their rainy day gifts,” posted Phyllis Sanfilippo
–> Mary Nell wrote, “We’ve had a tradition of giving away toys to less privileged kids since he was 4 (he’s 7 now), and have gathered whole trash bags full of less-than-played-with stuff.”
–> “It’s definitely been helpful to do Operation Christmas Child. Now, you can track where your box goes online!” posted Hallie Doyle.
–> Have you heard of The Secret Toy Society? Katie Wiig shared this idea. These are toy makers who make toys and leave them as gifts for perfect strangers.
3. Write Giving Lists
–> “Have them write a list of things they might like to see their families, neighbors, teachers, friends or favorite animals get for the holidays,” said Rene’ Crista Jaworski-Kippola.
4. Adopt a Family
–> Giving trees, Salvation Army, and other organizations offer opportunities to help families in need.
5. Give to Active Duty Military.
–> “We also donate items to military men/women overseas,” said Julie Twining. “We really try to keep the focus on doing for others rather than wanting for ourselves.”
6. Be Present
–> Jennifer Fischer shared how she used an wrapped box to remind herself to be present with her family.
7. Be Together
–> Jennifer’s family also made a “Santa Bag” that they filled with things they could do together – rather than gifts.
8. Adopt the Want/Need/Wear/Read Philosophy of Gifts.
–> Sunshine Crawford shared this letter & that they’re starting this philosophy this year.
9. 4 Gifts +
–> “We are “downsizing” the amount of gifts they receive by only giving them 4 from us (something they want, need, wear, and read), one group gift and stockings from Santa and a name exchange among themselves,” posted Alina Dineen.
–> “I have them give me only three ideas for each category to avoid 15 pages of want lists,” wrote Emily Jones.
10. Homemade Gifts
–> “We have always done a homemade Christmas,” wrote Primrose Yoon. “Our gifts to friends and family are homemade with a spending limit on supplies used to make the gifts.”
11. Do activities about Jesus’ birth.
–> “For our family, we’ve always tried to emphasize why were celebrating Christmas for us its the birth of Jesus. We focus on community giving and service to others,” wrote Rachel McClain.
. . .
We’re going to stop TV watching.
We’ve adopted a single-parent family through a local non-profit. We’ll go shopping for them this weekend.
We’re parring down the gifts.
We’re going to go through the toys and clothes and make bags to give to the consignment store or charity. (Every year I take the kids to the consignment store to shop for each other with the credits we have accumulated — it’s a blast!)
We’re going to think of how we want to feel and make a list of family activities to share together.
But we’ll keep pondering what else we can do — and make sure it’s a family attitude and practice that lasts the entire year.