Helpful Children’s Picture Books About Grief and Death

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When children lose anyone to death, it’s important to help them process their grief. Whether it’s a beloved family member (mom, dad, grandparent), friend, or pet, read these picture books to help children understand that their feelings are valid and that they’re not alone.

How else can books help?

They can prepare children to understand what it might be like to experience a loss.

They can help normalize the range of emotions when experiencing grief from the death of a loved one.

They can give us empathy for others who are going through the grieving process. (I also wrote about helping a grieving child process with writing and art here.)

Most of the children’s picture books about grief and death are secular but I’ve indicated if any share a religious perspective.

You’ll find general books about death as well as books specifically about the loss of a relative and the loss of a pet.

When my husband’s best friend died about 12 years ago, leaving behind a daughter, I only found books about the loss of a pet. So I’m very glad to see that there now exist many more books to read that are about the loss of a parent as well.

Books help us know we aren’t alone and know what we feel isn’t wrong or bad.

It’s beyond heartbreaking to lose someone we care about. If you’re here because you have, I can only hope these books help in some small way with your grief.

Children’s Picture Books About Grief and Death

1. General Picture Books about Death and Grief

21 Helpful Children's Picture Books About Grief and Death
I Miss You: A First Look at Death
by Pat Thomas, illustrated by Leslie Harker
This book shares basic information about how when someone dies, their body stops working and that people die for different reasons. Throughout the pages are questions like: Has anyone you know died? How did they die? It’s a simple, respectful secular explanation of death. The book also talks about grief and the feelings that happen after someone dies.

21 Helpful Children's Picture Books About Grief and Death
The Dead Bird
by Margaret Wise Brown, illustrated by Christian Robinson
The children find a dead bird. They decide to carry him to the woods, bury him, and decorate his grave with flowers. It may sound simple but for kids, it’s a powerful narrative about life and death as well as ritual and tradition.

21 Helpful Children's Picture Books About Grief and Death
Ida, Always by Caron Levis and Charles Santoso
This book is a beautiful story of friendship that doesn’t end in the passing of one friend. Gus and Ida are polar bears friends — Gus knows that Ida will always be there. And, after Ida’s death, Gus learns that Ida still is with him in his heart. It’s sad but beautiful.

21 Helpful Children's Picture Books About Grief and Death
The Goodbye Book
by Todd Parr
Todd Parr gets it right again with this new picture book on the subject of death and saying goodbye. He talks about how you might feel — sad, mad, like not talking, like hiding, and more. He writes how eventually you’ll start feeling better. He says they’ll be days when you feel up and days when you feel down. But, you’ll remember and sometimes you might feel like talking to someone or drawing a picture. This book is a gift for children who are facing the loss of someone special. It is also helpful for other kids so they might understand what it’s like. I think it’s a very accurate glimpse into the feelings when you must say goodbye, for any reason, even if it’s not a death.

Bug in a Vacuum
Bug in a Vacuum
by Melanie Watt
This is a beautifully illustrated book about the stages of grief as shown by a fly trapped in a vacuum bag. I liked this book quite a bit and think it is a great way to share the stages of grief with children.

picture books about death, grief, loss
Big Cat, Little Cat by Elisha Cooper
This is the story of the friendship between two cats, the grief when one dies, and the healing as life continues. It’s deftly told in simple black-and-white illustrations with minimal text, capturing symbolism, evoking emotions and prompting reflection and discussion.

21 Helpful Children's Picture Books About Grief and Death
Someone I Love Died
by Christine Harder Tangvald, illustrated by Anne Kennedy
It’s sad and confusing when someone dies. The author of this book shares the Christian perspective about what happens and gives readers interactive prompts for sharing.

21 Helpful Children's Picture Books About Grief and Death
Always and Forever
by Alan Durant
Mole, Hare, and Otter don’t think they will ever get over their sadness when their friend Fox dies. Soon the friends realize that Fox will always be with them in their hearts and memories.

Children's Books about Death
Chester Raccoon and the Acorn Full of Memories by Audrey Penn
Chester is upset because his friend, Skiddel Squirrel, has died. Chester’s mom helps Chester and his friends remember and celebrate Skiddel’s life.


A Little Blue Bottle
by Jennifer Grant, illustrated by Gillian Whiting
(Christian)
A girl is very sad that her elderly neighbor has died. Her mom shows her the blue bottle that used to sit on her neighbor’s shelf and explains that God understands and collects her tears in a bottle. It helps the girl to know that she can be sad and God is with her.

books that help kids deal with death and grief
How to Say Goodbye (Benny and Penny)
by Geoffrey Hayes
If you don’t already love this series, I highly recommend checking it out– it’s fantastic. In this story, the brother and sister find a dead salamander and react in different ways. But where Penny is tenderhearted, Benny isn’t — at least at first and regrets his behavior, helping bury the salamander with Penny and her friend.

2. Picture Books About the Loss of a Relative (Mom, Dad, Grandparent)

picture books about the death of a parent
One Wave at a Time: A Story about Grief and Healing
by Holly Thompson, illustrations by Ashley Crowley
This is the BEST book on the death of a parent I’ve read. Why? Because it really captures what kids go through as well as how parents support kids in their grief. This boy describes the waves of emotion that he feels after the death of his dad. “some waves / are fear waves / that curl me in a ball” There are some days with no waves, just flatness. “I’m like a robot / as I ride the bus, walk the halls.” He narrates about the group where he can share about his special person that died. At home, he adds to his memory box about his dad, makes a grief first aid kit, paints a Memory Chair to share his dad’s memories. What a healthy view of grief! “When Mom cries now, I don’t hide / when Ben whines now, I don’t (usually) yell / and when I spy a wave, I inhale slow
 

Grandpa’s Top Threes
by Wendy Meddour, illustrated by Daniel Egnues
This grief story is wonderful. A sweet little boy helps his grandpa out of his grief by asking his grandpa’s opinion on his top three things — in random categories –and together they make lots of top three lists. Like the top three jellyfish. Or the top three animals at the zoo and eventually, the top three memories of granny. This gives them both a way to remember Granny.

Picture Books About the Loss of a Relative (Mom, Dad, Grandparent)
Love & Memories: Activities for Kids Who Have Lost a Loved One
 by Susan B. Weaver
sample pages here
I liked what I saw as I looked through this workbook. Prompts guide children to remember the person who died and express their feelings about it. It’s meant for ages 4 – 14.

21 Helpful Children's Picture Books About Grief and Death
The Scar
by Charlotte Moundlic, illustrated by Olivier Tallec
This children’s picture book will make you cry. We watch a young boy narrate his grief after his mother’s death. Illustrated in red and white, the dramatic colors capture the pain of his words and his fear that he will forget his mother.

Picture Books About the Loss of a Relative (Mom, Dad, Grandparent)
Aunt Fanny’s Star
by Brigitte Weninger Feridum Oral
Aunt Fanny comes to live with the Bunny family when she’s too ill to take care of herself. She makes things more fun for the Bunny children. She also prepares the children for when she dies or flies to the stars as she calls it.  When she dies, the family is sad. They bury her and sing and cry together but remember that she’s in a better place.

Picture Books About the Loss of a Relative (Mom, Dad, Grandparent)
Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs by Tomie De Paolo
Young Tommy visits his grandma and his great-grandma every Sunday. One day, Nana Upstairs isn’t there anymore because she’s died. Tommy must say good-bye.

Picture Books About the Loss of a Relative (Mom, Dad, Grandparent)
Sophie by Mem Fox
Sophie and her Grandpa have a close relationship. When Grandpa dies, it’s not until she has a child of her own that the feelings of love remind her of what she had with her Grandpa.

Picture Books About the Loss of a Relative (Mom, Dad, Grandparent)
The Memory String by Eve Bunting
Laura uses a string with buttons to remind her of her family history, especially her mom who has died. She remembers her mom’s prom dress and the nightgown her mom wore the day she died.

Picture Books About the Loss of a Relative (Mom, Dad, Grandparent)
Grandma’s Gloves by Cecil Castellucci
When Grandma dies, her granddaughter feels so sad. As she grieves, she thinks back about all that she learned from her Grandma.

Picture Books About the Loss of a Relative (Mom, Dad, Grandparent)
Daddy’s Promise by Cindy Klein Cohen
Jesse’s father died. Jesse doesn’t understand what happened and why. Both dreams and his mother help answer Jesse’s questions.

 death of a grandparent
Grandpa’s Stories: A Book of Remembering
by Joseph Coelho, illustrated by Allison Colpoys
Marked by each season, we see a grandpa sharing stories about India and spending playful time with his little granddaughter. When Grandpa dies, the girl holds on to her memories, writing and drawing them in the notebook her grandpa gave her. I love this idea to support children whose grandparents have died and the beautiful, bright illustrations that make this book less melancholy and more celebratory.

3. Picture Books About the Death of a Pet


Remembering Barkley
by Erin Frankel, illustrated by Aboo Yang
This story shows the process of grieving and remembering a beloved dog who has died. The boy and the dog who loved their friend Barkley walk by the lake and the tree that Barkley loved. They try other paths. They return to Barkley’s favorite tree often, letting their memories come and go. Eventually, they’re able to play and laugh again, thinking fondly of their beloved friend. It’s a tender story that reminds us that grief lasts for a long time and eventually gets less intense.

Picture Books About the Death of a Pet
Saying Goodbye to Lulu
by Corinne Demas, illustrated by Ard Hoyt
Lulu is the little girl’s dog. The girl describes how when Lulu gets old she can’t go up the stairs anymore or even walk. And she knows that she will die soon. When Lulu dies, the little girl feels sad. As time passes, she remembers Lulu in her heart. Appealing illustrations and a genuine story make this story accessible and highly recommended for kids who can relate to the death of a pet.

Picture Books for Kids About the Death of a Pet
Dog Heaven
by Cynthia Rylant
(Religious)
God gives dogs fields and fields for running. He gives dogs lakes with geese. It’s the best place for dogs to go after they die. Children will feel reassured that their beloved pet is in a better place.

Picture Books About the Death of a Pet
Cat Heaven
by Cynthia Rylant
(Religious)
Kids wonder what happens to your pet cat after they die. In this story, the cat goes to Cat Heaven, a wonderful place with butterflies to chase and angel’s laps for cuddling. It’s a perfect place filled with happy cats.
 
children's books about grief and death
The Heaven of Animals
by Nancy Tillman
(Christian)
Rhyming text with warm illustrations shares how our pets go to heaven and the angels know their names and favorite things.
 
children's books about grief and death
Rosie & Crayon
by Deborah Marcero
The little girl’s grief for her dog’s death shifts after she helps another girl find her missing cat. There’s a good deal of color imagery, which may not appeal to readers, but the illustrations are quite lovely.
 
Children's Books about Death
The Tenth Good Thing About Barney by Judith Viorst
This is a sweet children’s picture book about the loss of a pet cat. The boy tries to think of 10 good things about his cat to say at his funeral.

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10 Responses

  1. Danielle Dupuis says:

    I am surprised that “Bug in a Vacuum” is not on the list by Melanie Watts. She actually goes through the 5 stages of grief in this book. I have used it for many grades.

    1. I couldn’t decide — I’m glad to hear it’s been helpful for your students and will add it, thanks!

  2. Any suggestions for older kids? Like, middle school?

    1. Carolyn,
      It depends on what you’re needing. A picture book can be meaningful for older kids and digestible — but some kids wouldn’t want to read picture books. There are many, many fiction books about grief and loss which I could recommend. Would that be something you want? And if so, is there a specific kind of situation?

  3. Great list! I would also add “Voyage to the Star Kingdom”. Written for a real family that learned that 2 of their 3 young daughters had a fatal disease, this book takes a beautiful look at the hope of heaven and the joy that awaits there.

  4. I’d like to add to this great list the picture book Tear Soup, A recipe for Healing after Loss by Pat Schwiebert.

    1. Yes. I also read Freddy the Leaf as a child (I still own my copy 30 years later) and it greatly impacted me. It is a beautiful book.

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