by Susan Schroeder, mother and Kimochis expert.
So many of us moms work outside of the home and try hard NOT to bring our work home with us. All parents (working outside the home or not!) crave sacred, uninterrupted, quality time with our children. We want to make sure we stay connected to our kids and make sure they know that we are available for them, even when we have to spend time away—at the office, on the road, on the phone, or even just on a grown-up night out.
As one of the founders and Marketing Director for Kimochis…Toys With Feelings Inside®, I’ve been pretty lucky. Bringing my work home with me has actually helped me stay connected to my kids!
When the first prototypes of the Kimochis® characters and Kimochis® feeling pillows came home with me, my two daughters (ages 7 and 4 at the time) went crazy for the cute characters—getting to know their personalities, play acting with them, dressing them up…the usual. After the initial playtime, I decided to put all of the Kimochis® feeling pillows in a bowl to store them. I could say that I planned to keep the Bowl of Feelings on the dining room table (a high traffic area), but I think it actually ended up there because I was too exhausted from my day to put it away with all the other toys. This was one time that feeling exhausted actually paid off.
At dinner, we passed the Bowl of Feelings around the table. We each picked a feeling (or two) and told a story from our day explaining why we picked that feeling.
I learned so much detail in that one activity about what my daughters’ were doing and thinking during the day. It was a big change from the usual conversation.
“How was school today?”
And, I realized that this simple activity gave my girls a chance to see that EVERYONE has feelings—even mom and dad—and that there are a lot of ways to handle those feelings. How did mommy handle feeling EMBARRASSED when she forgot to send my lunch to school? When Daddy felt SILLY during a serious meeting, what did he do to get himself to sit still? Wow, Mommy and Daddy get SAD, SCARED, and SHY too sometimes?
When playground stories come up, the LEFT OUT, SHY, and MAD feelings come to the dinner table. We talk about them together and make plans for the next day. What are some FRIENDLY things we can do to get ourselves included in the highly competitive four-square game? What are some cool-down tricks (instead of hitting!) to use when we feel MAD at our sister or friend? My husband and I invite the Kimochis® characters to dinner and do crazy little role-plays to show the girls tricks for handling challenging moments. Yes, they roll their eyes at us and we usually end up laughing, but we know our girls give our tricks a try. It’s pretty rewarding when your shy child starts to keep a tally of how many kids she says, “Hi (say name / make eye contact)” to each day.
Sometimes we play feeling charades with our Bowl of Feelings to learn that there really is a difference between MAD and DISAPPOINTED. In the heat of the moment, throwing SAD, FRUSTRATED, MAD, and Make-Your-Own ANNOYED feeling pillows into your sister’s room is a lot less painful than throwing punches. At bedtime, we often tuck feelings into the character’s pouches for wishful, hopeful or loving thoughts. On the first week of school (or other challenging school days), I add LOVED, GRATEFUL, BRAVE, FRIENDLY or whatever’s appropriate to their lunchbox to let them know they can handle whatever is coming their way.
So as it turns out, two parenting “no-no’s” —bringing my work home with me and not putting the toys away—have proven to have had an amazing effect on my family!
I wonder what would happen if I left all the dirty dishes in a high traffic area? . . .
For more family communication games, fun activities, or more information about Kimochis®, visit: www.kimochis.com
Susan’s giving a reader ONE of EACH of the four Mixed Feelings Pack!! (= 24 feelings) I highly recommend you enter – we have lots of Kimochis and they really do help start important conversations. To enter, comment below with your favorite Kimochis plush.
Imagination Soup’s official giveaway rules. Deadline for entering is September 30, 2011, 11:59 EST. No purchase necessary.
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