My Daughter’s Non-Disorder Sensory Processing Disorder
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Apparently, AJ has tactile Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). This news is good and bad. The more I learn about SPD, I feel like finally we’re getting to what’s going on with AJ. But I’m mad, too — because she’s nine! How did the pediatricians and teachers miss this diagnosis for so long? (And, just to be clear, neither her teachers or her doctor finally got me to try Children’s Hospital in Denver to get AJ assessed — it was a social worker.)
SPD = THE NON-DISORDER DISORDER
But, the pediatricians and teachers aren’t to blame really. No one knows about SPD – and, according to Dr. Lucy Jane Miller, the nation’s leading SPD expert, it’s laughable to most doctors. (Remember Western doctor’s opinion of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder a decade ago? )
No one knows about SPD because technically, SPD doesn’t exist – at least not until the American Psychiatric Association puts it into the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (The DSM) and says it’s an actual disorder.
Okay, so how do you get in the DSM?
Miller says, “It’s political. He who has the strength, gets his way,” about the process of acceptance into the DSM, and admits she isn’t sure if the years of research she’s submitted from well-respected universities like Harvard, Yale, and MIT will count for anything. “Oprah. If we could get on Oprah, we’d get in,” she adds. “I’ve been doing this for 35 years and it makes no sense.”
WHAT IS SENSORY PROCESSING DISORDER?
Sensory Processing Disorder (formerly called Sensory Integration Dysfunction) is an umbrella term which covers a variety of neurological disabilities related to “the inability to use information received through the senses in order to function smoothly in daily life.” (The Out-of-Sync Child, Kranowitz.)
In 1972, A. Jean Ayres, Ph.D. O.T.R., published a book suggesting that sensory issues in children weren’t symptoms of other disorders but in fact, their own unique and unrecognized disorder.
Miller explains that we now know that there are different subtypes of SPD. The one that applies to AJ is sensory over responsiveness particularly with tactile but also with auditory, taste, and smell.
“Children who are over-responsive to sensation exhibit “sensory defensiveness” – an aversion to touch, sound, light, or other sensory input. Many of these children are fussy babies who grow into toddlers and grade schoolers who are anxious, have trouble making transitions, have frequent tantrums or meltdowns, and/or have difficulty in social situations.” (S.T.A.R. website)
SO, SHE ACTS LIKE THIS BECAUSE OF SPD?
Even as a baby, AJ didn’t like being held, rocked or cuddled. She flinched when hugged up until recently. The only time she fell asleep in someone’s arms, my husband’s, she was sick. I never got to rock her to sleep. Ever.
She’d have screaming tantrums with hair brushing, nail clipping, going to the doctor, and getting in her car seat. I was always envious of the moms who could run more than one errand — I had a two errand limit before total meltdown would happen. There were no exceptions. (I even cut her hair off after threatening . . . if you throw a fit one more time . . . and when one more time arrived, chop, chop.)
One of the worst experiences of my life was AJ’s three-year-old well-care checkup. It also was the beginning of the pediatrician missing things and me feeling like a total failure as a mother. The first part of the visit required AJ to get on the doctor’s scale and get weighed. AJ refused –crying and screaming. We were in a common area, not in a room so we had a nice large audience for this whole interaction. JJ had just been born, I was still wearing my velour maternity sweatpants and matching jacket.
I started out with my best parenting techniques (“Look, this will be fun! Mommy will show you. See?”) and slowly deteriorated to bribing (“I’ll buy you an ice cream”) and then to inventing consequences (“You will not get an ice cream!”)– nothing worked. It was a ONLY a scale! All she had to do was step on it for a few seconds.
AJ was so out of control that she started biting her arm. At this point, I was profusely sweating and about to cry. I had no idea what to do. Eventually, I got weighed by myself and then weighed again holding a flailing AJ. After more screaming and crying, we were sent home without even the basics of the well-care visit. I bought everyone that helped us Starbucks gift cards and resigned myself to being a failure as a mother.
But, wouldn’t this be a great time to have given AJ some sort of screening?? — and give us both the help we needed? Instead, I believed that her behavior was because I wasn’t a good parent. Now I wonder if any of it was in her or my control when her senses were that overstimulated.
I could go on and on with stories that I now can see as behaviors that indicated AJ’s sensory processing disorder. (Even chewing on her clothes and hair is a common behavior! I only learned this a few weeks ago!)
UNTREATED SPD
I’m still learning but apparently, there are some predictable consequences that happen when a child has SPD:
- poor fine motor skills
- poor social skills
- inflexible thinking
- lack of creativity
- difficulty with motor planning
Read more about how we’ve discovered a connection between AJ’s SPD and her anxiety.
TREATING SPD
Occupational Therapy — activities to help with proprioception, vestibular, tactile, auditory, visual, smelling and feeding.
I’m “brushing” AJ’s entire body with a plastic bristle brush. Also, I do joint compressions to help with low tone. (I think?) Also, we’re playing more with textured things, doing lots of movements like pushing, swinging, jumping – things we already do.
When the meltdowns occur, and they do, I give AJ a huge bear hug – sometimes wrap her up like a burrito in a blanket and hold her tight. It seems counter-intuitive but it really works!
WHAT I’M READING
The Out-of-Sync Child by Carol Stock Kranowitz, M.A.
Sensational Kids by Lucy Jane Miller
Raising a Sensory Smart Child by Lindsey Biel and Nancy Peske
Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys
SPD Blogger Network
Lemon Lime Adventures
QUESTIONS FOR YOU
Have you experienced SPD in your life? How so?
Do you have any advice that will help me in this process?
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I think she needs an animal – a sturdy animal to tolerate tantrums (a good dog) They are miracles for anyone with sensory issues… also – is there anyone who has investigated the difference between Autism and SPD?? This sounds SO much the same as high functioning Autism….
Oh! I’m so happy to read this!! My daughter did the same thing with the scale for YEARS! It was a HUGE accomplishment when she finally was able to step on the scale without screeching. So few people seem to understand it and it can be quite embarrassing to the parent of a child who’s hysterical about standing on the scale in the waiting room. I have learned so much for her and am a much better advocate for her now. Also, I’ve learned not to worry what others think.
Hi, I saw a link to this on pinterest and I clicked on it because it sounded like how I feel, although I am 29. Have you heard of something like this in adults? I am just coming off anxiety meds (and feeling it all again) after being really sick in the spring. I have also wondered if childbirth was much higher sensory experience for me as I describe it in much stronger terms than other moms I have talked to.
I’d guess that if it’s not treated in childhood, it would be with you as an adult. It sure sounds like it would be worth investigating, Jamie.
I’m way behind in the times, because you wrote this over a year ago, but I clicked over from an SPD search and had to read through all the comments. Thanks for the book suggestions! I have an appointment to see an OT as I suspect SPD. Can’t believe I’m a newsletter subscriber of yours and had no idea the whole time I was reading your great ideas that we were both dealing with the same issues at home (my son is 5). Hope your daughter is doing well and that she has a great start to the new school year 🙂
It is so frustrating that there is such a split of “believers” of SPD. I am a mother of two boys 8 & 9 . My 9 year old was diagnosed with SPD at 3 and received OT and I followed the suggestions in the Out of Sync Child. I did the brushing faithfully and am not sure it really made a difference for him. To this day he still has difficulty eating certain textures, but over all has made leaps and bounds of progress. Sadly his younger brother has been having a great deal of trouble with anger and mood swings. After pursuing bipolar disorder evaluations and anxiety issues, I finally tried the SPD route. He INSTANTLY responded in a HUGE positive way to brushing. He especially enjoys the joint compressions. He comes to me with his brush and asks me to brush him when he feels the need. I did a little research and found that they feel there may be a hereditary connection. I feel like a fool for not picking up on his needs sooner. I was so worried about the first child and helping him that I didn’t see the signs which manifested themselves a bit differently for child number 2. I know the sensory brushing and diet helped my first son and I see it helping the second child. Good luck to you and know how lucky your child is that you are looking into it!