Do you know the difference between shyness and introversion? I’m in a self-help group (of 1) of parents who don’t always understand really, really, really introverted kids. Maybe you’ll join me. Or maybe you’re that introvert who wants to be understood, like my daughter.
My very personal story of parenting my daughter and learning to understand her unique gifts as an introvert is posted today on Babble. I hope you’ll take a minute to read and leave a comment.
So, the big questions — what is introversion? It’s all about your energy.
I bet you know about extroversion already. Extroverts get their energy from . . . say it all together now . . . being around other people.
So, introverts get their energy from . . . (any guesses?) . . . being alone.
It’s not shyness.
Shyness is a social anxiety.
It’s all about energy.
Introverts can be very social; they just need time to recharge their batteries away from others. Introversion is a temperament – not a behavior.
Think about the children in your life. Do you know any who are introverts? They might
- need more processing time
- like to watch before participating
- not make eye contact
- only have one or two friends
- find it difficult to share their feelings
- learn by observing
- be very smart, even gifted
If this sounds familiar, you will want to read The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D.. It’s helped me understand my “innie” and her unique gifts. I reread it often.
As parents and teachers, I hope that we think about the needs of the introverts in our homes and classrooms — the world is designed by extroverts, for extroverts. We need to give equal consideration to our introverts, too.
Introverts in Picture Books
Cherry and Olive by Benjamin Lacombe
The Shy Little Kitten by Cathleen Schurr
The Story of Ferdinand by Munro Leaf
Which Would You Rather Be by William Steig
Shy Charles by Rosemary Wells
Introverts in Chapter Books
Franny K. Stein books by Jim Benton
Anne of Green Gables by Lucy Maud Montgomery
Evan’s Corner by Elizabeth Starr Hill
The View from Saturday by E.L. Konigsburg
Bridge to Terabithia by Katherine Paterson
A Wrinkle in Time by Madeline L’Engle
The 39 Clues by Rick Riordan
Chasing Redbird by Sharon Creech