Cancer Sucks! When a Parent has Cancer
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Her husband got the news last week– cancer. (Again.) Their boys are one and four.
When she told me, I taught her boys a bad word.
Somehow it just slipped out.
Cancer is scary and big and makes me MAD.
When A Parent Has Cancer
Not knowing what to do I asked another friend, Michelle, a breast cancer survivor with two young kids. She told me, “Support her by taking care of the kids so that she can take care of her husband and not worry. Take care of snacks, toys, babysitting.“
Ideas to Support
- Food: Care Calendar for meals
- Communication: Caring Bridge for a blog
- Coffee chats
- Set up a fund for donations
- Toys and books for the kids (Cancer Gifts, Busy Kits)
Books About Parents With Cancer
- Butterfly Kisses and Wishes on Wings
- My Book about Cancer
- Becky and the Worry Cup
- Once Upon a Hopeful Night
- The Paper Chain
- Someone I Love is Sick
- MyMommy Has Cancer — Michelle says, “It’s critical. It helped her understand what is happening.” Her daughter was three.
- Books on the American Cancer Society website.
Can you continue my list of ideas or books and make this a community project that will not only help my friend but others as well?
Have you supported a friend dealing with cancer and kid? What did you do to help?
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thanks for this post. I have a blog for parents of kids with serious illnesses and cancer and will use this information and book reviews to add to my blogs. As a nurse and author, I also have a manuscript for kids with cancer. Will keep you posted if I find a publisher? It is an important topic to discuss with children even though it is difficult.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
I’m so sorry to hear about your friend’s husband. I think that you have wonderful suggestions, especially meals and helping with the kids. I will lift up your friend and her family in my prayers.
During such challenging times, families and friends have an enormous opportunity to pull together and experience an intimacy unlike any other.
It is always important to be honest with children and help them to understand what is actually happening to their father. Distractions from the truth will not serve them in the long run.
As for “mom” – She will need and hopefully reach out to her family and friends for a listening heart and a helping hand with the day to day events. She will need time to be alone, but not isolate.
This is a very important time to express love and emotions. Don’t hold back – Leave nothing unsaid.
Marlaine and the other ladies said it all – and I am also sure she is very grateful having you as a friend.