This Valentine’s Day, I’m giving one-on-one time to my kids. I’m giving them time and attention.
Last week, I took both my kids clothes shopping at different times. It reminded me how special that 1:1 time is. It deposits into their emotional bank accounts. (And mine, too.)
The Leader in Me by Stephen R. Covey Chapter Five talks about the importance of emphasizing a family “we” culture. It suggests thinking about our family culture in terms of:
I realized last week that I want to be more thoughtful about our traditions. I want meaningful “Mommy and Me” and “Daddy and Me” time to be part of our family tradition.
Do you do this already?
If not, join me!
Give your kids some ideas from the list below. Then, let them choose. (Ownership!)
Parent-Child Date Ideas
Go Somewhere FREE
walk or hike
Go Somewhere FUN
Go Somewhere with FOOD
ice cream shop
Go Somewhere with LEARNING
help at your work
take a class together
make a craft
work on a project
play anything the child wants
watch a movie
Covey writes that the foundation of a beautiful family culture is unconditional (proactive) love. In other words,
- acceptance rather than rejection
- understanding rather than judgment
- participation rather than manipulation
I didn’t grow up with this kind of love. So for me, it’s the most important thing I can give my children –the gift of unconditional acceptance, understanding, and being present.
What is the most important thing you want to give your children? Comment here.