All of us reading enthusiasts don’t need to be told that books are exciting, insightful, adventurous, delicious, inspiring. . . This, we know.
As a parent, naturally I wished for my children to share my love of reading! I just assumed it would fall into place for them.
But not so fast.
Here’s a little bit of backstory: My mother taught me to read before I went to kindergarten. Books were marvelous things, things I held with great joy. A new book made the best gift. In short, I loved to read. By myself.
The same thing happened for my son. Obviously, this reading thing was now a tradition!
My daughter, however, did not follow the plan.
As a Montessori teacher, I had been schooled in the idea of “sensitive periods,”—times when a particular set of knowledge is most likely to be absorbed. The sensitive period for reading was supposed to be ages 4 – 7, when children would find it natural and easy to learn to read. Those years were the perfect time to introduce letters and sounds, then short words and sentences, then fun little stories. From there, children would eagerly graduate to chapter books. After that, there’d be no stopping them as they ravenously devoured book after book. I had taught many a five-year-old to read, and it was like teaching sponges to soak up water. They wanted all the books they could get.
Like you, I knew the importance of reading aloud to my children. I read to Rose. Lots. (She lovedlistening.) She attended Montessori preschool, where she acquired the basic info for reading. But instead of following the expected progression, she kept asking Mom (that’s me) to read to her aloud.
No big deal, I thought. She’s only six. Eventually, she’ll decide to read for pleasure on her own. So I continued reading to her—with gusto. And she continued to avoid reading herself.
She was bright and healthy with good eyesight. No signs of dyslexia. I figured, any day now, she’ll decide she likes to read; she’ll curl up in a chair with a book. By herself.
Now she was seven. In school she would read only the minimum required. She scored below the 50th percentile on reading tests. Really? Hmmm. But other than reading, her progress in school was good, and she always looked forward to read-aloud sessions at home. We went through all the Chronicles of Narnia, the complete series of Wizard of Oz. . .
I checked out chapter books for her, and left them around strategically. Although she showed no interest, I kept believing it was just a matter of time. I had such a horror of of forcing her, I didn’t want to insist that she read more than her school assignments.
Now she was nine! And I was very close to deciding there must be something wrong with my girl. Should I bring in more draconian measures? “Either read this book or. . .” But that seemed all wrong. I wanted her to love reading, not hate it. What now?
Enter a comic book.
When someone gave Rose an “Archie” comic book, I had mixed feelings. My parents had frowned upon comic books; they considered them to be utter trash. I’d never been allowed to read them! Certainly, I didn’t consider “Archie” to be great literature like Anne of Green Gables, which I was in the midst of reading to my daughter. Aloud.
Rose really wanted to hear the story in the comic book. Really wanted to hear it. The drawings intrigued her.
So, I told her she was going to have to read the dialog boxes and exposition all by herself. (This method had never worked in the past. I had tried my best to withhold endings from time to time, leaving them up to her to read. She would simply close the book and go off to do something else.)
This was different.
Watching her lie down on the carpet with the comic book open in front of her, I pretended great insouciance. I started folding laundry. But as I rolled socks, Rose turned pages.
She didn’t stop reading until she came to the end. She spoke. “Can we get another one of these?”
It cost a small fortune in comic book digests, but that was the year my daughter became an avid reader.
Jump ahead to 8th grade. I found out that my first book, The Seer and the Sword, was going to be published. And Rose scored in the 98th percentile of the ACT college entrance exam in reading comprehension.
Sometimes a solution comes to light in the most unlikely way. And apparently, kids are not as much alike as we’re sometimes asked to believe. I’m sure there must be a lot more stories out there, about children who discovered a love of reading in their own way and on their own time.
What’s your story?
As for me, I’m glad Rose loves books as much as I do. And I’m very glad I kept believing in her, and kept reading to her.
And that somebody gave her a comic book.
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Victoria Hanley grew up without a TV, so she made frequent visits to the library in search of entertainment. Although her father was a rocket scientist and her mother a registered nurse, Victoria gravitated toward the shelves of adventure and fantasy: books like The Lord of the Rings, The Chronicles of Narnia, and assorted collections of fairy tales. These read
ing adventures set the stage for her to become the writer she is today, published in ten languages.
Victoria’s goal is to inspire young people in their personal journeys, offering a sense of courage as they face the pressures and challenges of growing up. Her background gives her a keen interest in the way individual voices take shape, and she has led writing workshops for thousands of teens with the intention of encouraging creative expression. She loves to see kids make the connection between who they are and what they write.
All these workshops resulted in a writing book for teens, Seize the Story: A Handbook For Teens Who Like To Write. (Cottonwood Press, 2008) It opens the doors of creative writing, including characterization, setting, dialog, plotting, and point of view.
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Victoria’s latest novel is Violet Wings, an empowering fairy tale for tweens. The paperback version of Violet Wings will be out May 25th, 2010. Her websites are www.victoriahanley.com and www.vhanley.blogspot.com.
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